So many people dream of moving abroad. It’s one of those bucket-list goals where people picture exotic destinations, exciting adventures, and the chance for a fresh start. But here’s the truth from someone who’s been there: it’s not all sunshine and rainbows.
Moving abroad is a massive life change. Massive. It’s one of the most life-altering decisions you can make—equal parts exhilarating AND terrifying. That fear? It’s real. The logistics. The unknown. The endless “what-ifs.” It’s no surprise that most people who dream about it never take the leap.
But what if you didn’t let fear hold you back? What if, instead of being paralyzed by uncertainty, you could approach this life-changing step with confidence? I’ve done it three times—Croatia to Poland, Sweden, and the UK. It wasn’t easy, but it was, without a doubt, the most transformative decision of my life.
Here’s what I wish someone had told me before I made my first move: you don’t need to have everything figured out. You just need to know what to expect and how to navigate the challenges along the way. That’s why I’m sharing the seven key lessons I’ve learned from moving abroad—real, practical advice from someone who’s been through it all.
Let’s dive in.
7 Key Lessons I Learned from Moving Abroad
If you’re thinking about living and working abroad, whether it’s a permanent move or a year working overseas, these 7 key lessons will help you prepare before taking the leap.
These lessons aren’t just tips. They’re the kind of insights you only gain by living through the experience. They’re here to help you avoid your mistakes, ease the stress, and set yourself up for success as you take this life-changing step.
Here is a quick rundown of the lessons we'll cover:
Lesson #1: Prepare for the unexpected (because it will happen).
Lesson #2: Double the time you think you'll need.
Lesson #3: Track everything about your move.
Lesson #4: Keep a digital and physical record of important documents.
Lesson #5: Budget for your move to avoid surprises.
Lesson #6: Put yourself out there to meet people and build your support network.
Lesson #7: Embrace change and personal growth.
Whether you’re still in the planning stage or packing your bags, these seven lessons will give you a clear picture of what to expect and how to prepare for what’s ahead.
Lesson #1: Prepare for the Unexpected (Because it Will Happen).
Don't worry. It's not as bad as it sounds. It’s more of a cautionary lesson that will help you prepare well and handle all the challenges that come along, especially if you're a first-time expat.
Each time I moved, I had everything planned out—or so I thought. But every time, a new thing would surprise me and delay or complicate the whole process.
Visa approvals often take more time than expected, shipping and luggage get lost, finding the right apartment takes weeks and months in tricky housing markets, and figuring out your way around the public transport system takes time. (Plus, if you move to the UK, adjusting to the fact that the bus stop I need is on the "wrong" side of the road took me way longer than I'm willing to admit publicly.)
By expecting things to go wrong, it will be easier to stay calm and tackle problems as they come. Think of it as a mindset exercise: stay prepared for setbacks and ready to adapt.
Actionable tips to prepare for moving abroad:
Have a backup plan for delays or setbacks, like extra funds and alternative accommodations.
Add extra time to your timeline for visas, shipping, house hunting, and other processes to avoid last-minute stress.
Research local systems like housing, transportation, and bureaucracy to avoid surprises.
Lesson #2: Double the Time You Think You'll Need.
Here’s a universal truth: everything will take longer than you think. This isn’t just my experience—it’s backed by Hofstadter’s Law, which states, “Any task you're planning to complete will always take longer than expected.” It’s the ultimate reminder that no matter how well you plan, complex tasks (like moving abroad) will find ways to surprise you.
Opening a bank account, finding housing, or setting up utilities can quickly turn into multi-week or even multi-month ordeals, especially in a new country. When I moved to Sweden, I optimistically thought I’d settle everything in a month or two. Seven months later, I was still waiting for my bank account to open... which is a story for some other time.
The key is to expect the unexpected and give yourself more time than you think you’ll need. By padding your timeline, you’ll have room to handle delays without losing your mind.
Actionable tips for planning a move abroad:
Build a moving checklist and start at least three months before your planned move date.
Add an extra 30% to your timeline for tasks like visas, housing, and setting up bank accounts.
Handle critical items (like legal documents, work permits, and housing) first to avoid unnecessary stress later.
Lesson #3: Track Everything About Your Move.
Moving abroad is overwhelming enough without trying to keep all the details in your head. That’s why tracking everything is a must-do. From expenses to deadlines to the contents of your moving boxes, having it all documented will save you time, stress, and a lot of unnecessary guesswork.
For example, when I moved from Poland to Sweden, I created a detailed checklist for rental contracts, tax deadlines, and every other major task. I did the same for my move to the UK. Plus, I added a packing checklist. With 90% of my life packed into 13 boxes, I kept a detailed inventory of what was in each one. Unpacking was 10x easier because I always knew exactly where to find what I needed.
Tracking isn’t just about staying organized. It’s about giving yourself peace of mind during what will most probably be one of the most chaotic transitions of your life.
Actionable tips for moving abroad:
Create a simple moving spreadsheet to organize to-dos and deadlines in one place.
Create an inventory of everything you’re shipping, and label boxes clearly to simplify unpacking.
Lesson #4: Keep a Digital and Physical Record of Important Documents.
This rule is non-negotiable: back up everything—twice if you can. From critical paperwork to sentimental photos, having both digital and physical copies will save you endless headaches, especially when dealing with bureaucracy.
After multiple moves, I’ve learned the hard way that being overprepared is the best strategy. Need a payslip from six years ago? Got it. Proof of address from three years ago? Here it is. Having quick access to these records has saved me countless hours of stress and frustration.
Whether it’s visa documents, bank statements, or that random proof of address a landlord might ask for, having backups makes everything smoother. Because, let’s face it, you never know what you’ll need until you need it.
Actionable tips for moving abroad:
Scan and store digital copies of all key documents on a secure cloud platform (e.g., Google Drive or Dropbox).
Keep physical copies in a clearly labeled folder that’s easily accessible during your move.
Regularly update your records to include the latest versions of documents like payslips, leases, and ID cards.
Lesson #5: Budget for Your Move to Avoid Surprises.
Moving abroad can quickly become more expensive than you’d planned. Sure, you’ve factored in the big-ticket items—flights, shipping, maybe even some furniture—but it’s the hidden costs that sneak up on you. Think temporary housing, security deposits, visa fees, and last-minute expenses you didn’t see coming.
In my experience, it’s these unplanned costs that hit the hardest. Whether it’s paying for an extra night at a hotel because your apartment isn’t ready or coughing up unexpected customs fees for shipped belongings, having a buffer in your budget is a lifesaver.
The more you prepare for these surprises, the less stressful the process will feel when they inevitably pop up.
Actionable tips for budgeting for a move abroad:
Create a detailed moving-abroad budget that includes both expected and potential surprise expenses.
Set aside an emergency fund for at least 3 months in your new country.
Research local fees, taxes, and deposits in your destination country to avoid being blindsided.
Lesson #6: Put Yourself Out There to Meet People and Build Your Support Network.
One of the best parts of moving abroad is the chance to meet incredible people from all over the world. But here’s the thing: it won’t happen unless you put yourself out there. I learned this the hard way during my second international move.
When I first moved to Poland (international move no. 1), my job made meeting people easy. Work naturally brought me into contact with new faces, and I was lucky enough that many colleagues became friends.
But then came Sweden (international move no. 2), and everything changed. By that time, I was self-employed, working from home and glued to my laptop. In 18 months of living there, I met exactly one person—because I took the leap and replied to her post in a Facebook group for expats. If I hadn’t done that, my social tally would’ve been a zero.
As a proud introvert, I get it—putting yourself out there can feel daunting. But here’s the truth: making connections is what turns a foreign country into a home. It’s what makes the whole experience richer, more meaningful, and far less lonely.
Actionable tips for moving and living abroad:
Join expat groups or local meetups online (e.g., Facebook, Meetup) before and after you move.
Say yes to invitations, even when they push you outside your comfort zone—it’s worth it.
Get involved in local activities like language classes, hobby groups, or volunteering to meet like-minded people.
Lesson #7: Embrace Change and Personal Growth.
If I had to pick one word to describe moving abroad, it would be liberating.
Leaving behind the familiar—your routines, your comfort zone, even your own assumptions about life—opens you up to a whole new world of possibilities. Moving abroad challenges you in ways you can’t prepare for. And that’s exactly why it’s so transformative.
Every move I’ve made has shaped me. I’ve become more adaptable, resilient, and open-minded. Each country has taught me something new—not just about the world but about myself. It’s not always easy, but that’s where the magic happens. You grow because you have to, and you’ll come out the other side stronger than you ever imagined.
If I needed to sum up everything about moving abroad in one sentence, it would be this: The beauty of this journey isn’t just in discovering a new place—it’s in discovering a new version of you.
Actionable tips for moving and living abroad:
Keep a journal to track your personal growth and the lessons you’re learning.
Say yes to new experiences that push you out of your comfort zone, even when you feel uncomfortable.
Celebrate small wins, like navigating a new transport system or making your first local friend—it all adds up.
And that wraps up the lessons I’ve learned from moving abroad... not once, not twice, but thrice. Now, let’s dive into some of the most common questions you might have about moving abroad—quick answers to help you feel more prepared.
Frequently Asked Questions about Moving Abroad
Before taking the leap, it’s natural to have a lot of questions about moving abroad. The process can feel overwhelming, but getting clear answers can make all the difference.
Here are my answers to some of the most common questions I’ve heard.
What’s the hardest part of moving abroad?
The hardest part varies from person to person. For some, it’s leaving behind their support system and the comfort of the familiar. For others, it’s navigating the logistics or adjusting to a new culture and language. No matter what you find most challenging, remember that every expat’s journey is different—and with time and patience, those initial hurdles will feel more manageable.
What do I need to know before moving abroad?
Research is your best friend. Understand the cost of living, salaries, visa requirements, healthcare systems, and housing options in your destination country. Look into the cultural norms, transportation systems, and even common scams to avoid. The more prepared you are, the fewer surprises you’ll face when you arrive.
Can I land a job in another country before moving abroad?
Of course! I did it. And, in my opinion, it’s often the smartest way to start your move. Many industries and countries welcome skilled professionals and offer visa sponsorships, but it takes effort to find the right fit. Start by optimizing your LinkedIn profile, connecting with recruiters, and researching companies that hire internationally. And don’t forget to check out our guide on landing a job abroad before moving for actionable tips to streamline the process.
How to prepare emotionally for a big move?
Give yourself permission to feel all the emotions—excitement, fear, sadness, and everything in between. Stay connected with your loved ones back home, but also focus on building excitement for the adventure ahead. Journaling, meditating, or even talking with someone who’s been through the process can help you process the change and feel more grounded.
You got this.
Key Takeaways Before You Move Abroad
Moving abroad isn’t just about changing your address. It’s about stepping into a whole new life. It’s challenging, transformative, and incredibly rewarding if you’re prepared. Whether it’s budgeting for hidden costs, building a support network, or embracing personal growth, every lesson you learn will make your experience richer.
The truth is, you don’t need to have everything figured out before you go. What matters is having a plan, staying flexible, and approaching the journey with an open mind. Remember, moving abroad isn’t just about discovering a new country—it’s about discovering a new version of yourself.
No matter where you’re headed, the lessons in this guide are here to help you navigate the challenges and make the most of this life-changing step.
Matilda & Ana
Hi there! We're Matilda and Ana — the founders of MoreThanCareers, expats, international corporate recruiters, and HR professionals with 18+ years of combined HR experience. Since 2018, our career-building techniques, tools, and resources have helped over 500 coaching clients and 8,000 individuals worldwide land new, more fulfilling, higher-paying, and career-changing jobs.
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